Downward Spiral

Hey everyone, I apologize for the lack of posts. My real life has been getting in the way of my blogging.

This post will be about a dear friend of mine who is in what most would call a "downward spiral". I had to make the tough decision to involve her family members in her problems last night, and for that I've lost my best friend.

My friend has had her share of problems, though most of them small in the cosmic sense of things. She once lived up here in Buffalo, but had to move to North Carolina with her parents due to debt and the way her life was going.

After a few smaller moves, she ended up in Austin, TX. I thought Austin would be good for her, she always sounded so happy. Yet things began to change. Firstly, she was forced to get her own apartment, and another car. Which didn't allow her to meet her goal of paying off her debts. Instead they were building back up again.

Then she began to hang out with what I like to call "less then desirable" people. People who were into drugs, and drinking 24/7. We all know some of those people, the people who can't have fun unless a beer or shot of vodka is involved.

Things began to take an even worse course when one of her "friends" involved her in a large amount of drama that not only affected her personal life but also her proffesional one. She called me crying on the phone saying she couldn't take all of this anymore and wanted to move back.

I've always tried to be that friend that you could turn to. I'm the one willing to drive four hours in a snowstorm to come pick you up because your car got stuck. But I find myself unable to help my best friend any longer. She's going to move in with this "friend" that caused damage to her apartment, and all those long sorrowful conversations. Why? I don't know. She just tends to make stupid mistakes.

So, I made the decision to call her sister last night and tell her everything that I knew. Her sister is a loud, and blunt type of person. I had hoped that her sister might knock some sense into her. I knew my best friend wouldn't be happy that I called her sister and told her everything, but none the less I believed it was the right thing to do.

I've lost my best friend, but I hope that she manages to clean up her act. Find friends who care for her, like we do in Buffalo, and I hope she manages to get her life on track. She's a bright and wonderful girl, but she has a need to conform to whomever is around her.

I suppose only the future can tell.

Have you had any similar friends? What did you do to help them?
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

-Sean